As the social media ban takes effect today, many parents are already seeing strong reactions at home. For some children, access to social media has been part of their daily rhythm for years. Having it removed can feel sudden, unfair and deeply upsetting. Tantrums, emotional outbursts and withdrawal are not only possible – they are likely.
It’s important to be clear about why this change matters. This is not over-protective parenting or a “Nanny State” response. It is a necessary step to reduce children’s exposure to online predators, inappropriate content and digital environments that do not prioritise their wellbeing. Setting boundaries in this space is about safety, not punishment.
That said, understanding why the ban exists doesn’t make the emotional response disappear. Children who have enjoyed unrestricted access may experience this as a loss. Big reactions often reflect overwhelmed nervous systems rather than defiance. Your role in these moments is not to convince them they’re wrong, but to help them regulate.
When emotions escalate, focus first on connection, not correction. Acknowledge their feelings without backing down on the boundary. Phrases like “I know this feels really unfair” or “I can see how upset you are” help calm the situation, even if the rule stays firm. Arguing logic during a meltdown rarely works; calming comes first, reasoning later.
One of the most effective coping tools for parents is predictability. Children cope better when boundaries feel consistent rather than reactive. Set clear, calm expectations and stick to them. Avoid long explanations in the heat of the moment — repetition and consistency will do more than debating.
Withdrawal needs just as much attention. Some children may go quiet, retreat to their rooms or disengage socially. Gentle check-ins matter. Let them know you are available, without forcing conversation. Sitting together, doing something simple side-by-side, can open the door when words feel hard.
Parents also need strategies to regulate themselves. Take a breath before responding. Lower your voice instead of raising it. If needed, step away briefly once your child is safe and calm. Children take their emotional cues from adults, especially during conflict.
Replacing screen time is critical. Removing access without offering alternatives increases frustration. Schedule connection on purpose – shared meals, board games, family movie nights or outdoor activities can help children rebuild regulation and enjoyment without screens. Daylight savings offers opportunities for simple after-dinner walks or bike rides that naturally diffuse tension.
Role modelling matters more than ever. Children notice inconsistencies quickly. Reducing your own screen use, particularly during family time, reinforces the boundary without words. Screen-free routines around meals and bedtime help reset expectations across the household.
This moment may feel messy, loud and uncomfortable — but it is also an opportunity to reset habits that no longer serve families well. Strong, consistent boundaries paired with empathy help children feel safer, even when they protest loudly.
If emotional distress escalates or withdrawal persists, seeking guidance from our allied health professionals who can support both parents and children through the adjustment.